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NeoNotes — Witch hunts without due process

Originally posted on a thread on reddit.

Back in the days before Trump, not long after the Duke lacrosse rape accusations, there was a online project to create a voluntary sexual ethics code for pagans.

Sometimes we pagans take our sex way too seriously.

Anyway, I wasn't thrilled, but I figured I'd join and hopefully head off some of the worse impulses. Anyway, it got written (several pages long!), and while no one was perfectly happy with it, we decided that it was about time to take it to the "greater community." Almost as an afterthought and with the Duke case (and similar cases) in mind, I suggested one addition. Just because someone was accused of rape, that didn't mean that they were guilty. Sometimes people lied about being raped.

Well, all the others thought that was a good thought, so it became part of the document. We took it public and invited comment.

Guess what part got flamed beyond any possible afterlife? There were almost no comments on anything else, just that one bit about accusations not necessarily meaning rape.

The document got removed, and I think I'm the only one who still talks about it. I always admit that I'm the one who got it derailed, even if I had the best intentions. Looking back on it, I'm not so sure that is a bad thing.

Anyway, back to the topic. Before the Weinstein mess broke, we already saw cases on college campuses where the accusation was enough to ruin lives, even if the evidence didn't support the accusation. I think this will be the basis of a lot a witch hunts.

Of course sexual harassment and rape are very real. But just because someone is accused doesn't mean they did it. Each case should be investigated on it's own.

NeoNotes are the selected comments that I made on other boards, in email, or in response to articles where I could not respond directly.
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from crux № 7- age of consent

I think the age of consent is the best rule anyone has come up with so far.

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NeoNotes — ban it

But you can't ban it because you dislike it. You can't outlaw it because if offends you. You can't lock it away and hope no one finds the key.

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from crux № 3 - Shame & sex

Are they not freely consenting adults?

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None of my business

Unless it's with me, who you have sex with, how you have sex, and how many times you have sex is frankly none of my business. Likewise, unless it is sex with me, I'm not responsible for the consequences.
     — NeoWayland

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NeoNotes — Subjective morality

For length reasons, this entry appears on it's own page.

“The law should be limited to punishing direct, measurable harm.”

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NeoNotes — Fertility religion

I can't think of a better place to do that than pressed up against each other in the afterglow.

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NeoNotes — Off Limits

Behind locked doors and privacy fences, I am "free to do what I want." But is that freedom?

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NeoNotes — Laci Green

Because I lost a wager, I spent some time looking at Laci Green videos a while back. The stuff on sex is pretty good, the stuff on relationships is so-so, and the SJW stuff is just destructive. Although in her defense, I don't think she has thought through the implications.

Anyway, the chances of someone under 25 knowing very much about relationships are pretty slim. Particularly when their solution is for at least half of humanity to submit to their wisdom and change their ways.

NeoNotes are the selected comments that I made on other boards, in email, or in response to articles where I could not respond directly.
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NeoNotes — Sexuality & society

I suspect that sexual orientation is not as hard wired as some believe, but that is still individual choice.

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NeoNotes — Emotional connections

Sex without the emotional connection is masturbation

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NeoNotes — Vice

Vice laws tell people that we don't think they can be adults

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NeoNotes — Smear

Why should they feel shame?

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NeoNotes — Sex Speculation

There I admit we get into some speculation. We can't isolate the culture from the genetics. Not to mention that Really Big Assumption that you are either straight OR gay forever and ever, amen.

We can't say how much a person's sexual orientation depends on their conditioning, religious beliefs, cultural standards, rebellion, stress, pain, or pleasure. These factors can't be eliminated.

Basically all we have to work with is observations and we don't know how much is because of the biology and how much is because of the mind. That means in turn that any discussion of sex is going to bog down really quickly in ideas that can't be quantified.

Thank the gods the same can't be said for the act!

NeoNotes are the selected comments that I made on other boards, in email, or in response to articles where I could not respond directly.

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Not all feminists…

Certainly not all women are like that. What we have is a very small group that wants political power and public validation in the worst way. Yes, it’s another case of Those Who Want To Be Noticed.



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Zero. Zilch. Nada.

I am absolutely certain that abortion should not be funded by taxpayers. Nor should organizations or companies providing abortions. Nor should companies that provide birth control.

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Maggie McNeill takes a stand

Somebody else knows…

That government is not your friend.

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“Protecting” the children

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Sex and crimes

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Forbidden

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Liberty, the internet, and the free market

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